Profiling a Sexual Offender

This guy is being charged for luring teenage girls for sex and later blackmailing them for more favors with the video and photos he has recorded. Those higher sexual desire can be seen by the eyelids. Eyelids that are puffy usually indicates more... prone to sexual imagination. However this kind of sex offender, usually require higher intelligence, as his motive is to first lure - not direct rape. Therefore it is proven in his high forehead, displaying strategizing and planning ability.

Then we look at the eyebrow, both eyebrow are short meaning short temper and also eyebrow on the right eye is not clearly visible on this picture. It also means that age 33 and 34 there is not much accomplishment, in fact fail in all things he tried.

Crooked nose bridge shows that someone that cannot be trusted, likes to tell lies. Add on to high and wide forehead, so we can deduce he is someone  cunning with his words and most of the time false.

Top lips are very thin while bottom lips are very thick, again a sign of heavy sexual desires. Add that to the narrow and declining chin, someone who has a lot of sexual fantasy, uncontrollable sexual desires on the lips and likes to lie.

Then we have to analyse and think, there are a lot of guys with puffy eyelids but they do not commit sexual offense. This person has all the traits.

1.     Puffy eyelids

2.    Thick lower lips and thin upper lips

3.    Crooked nose

4.    High cheekbones but without flesh – unable to control mental desire

5.    Narrow and receding chin with high forehead – much imagination and will act on impulse without thinking about consequences.

Traditionally parent would like to say that usually bad guys does not have a marking on their forehead. In fact they do, our face usually have all the clues on our characters, background and also tendency.

It is a valuable skill in our degenerated society.

Driving Force

Last week I was all ready to conduct the Qi Men Dun Jia (QMDJ) program and San Yuan Level 3 in Moscow. On the morning before I left, my wife came down with high fever. I thought it was just normal flu with fever, however by afternoon the fever still have not subside, nothing much can be done on my side because she already went to local GP and taken some medicine.

*On a side note*Oh yes, family members of Feng Shui practitioners do get sick like everyone else. Feng Shui practitioners themselves also will get sick and we are mortals too. Sometimes we even prepare advance for the end of our mortality, which is why I have even prepare for my final resting place even though I am just 35.

By the time I am about to leave for the airport in the evening, I have asked my mum to take my wife to the hospital if her fever still have not subside in a few hours. I left for Moscow in a worried state of mind, as my wife seldom gets sick, the most once a year even then it is very mild stuff. Plus my two boys still is down with mild flu and feverish. However there are so many students anticipating for the program, everything was already set in motion.

When I transit in Singapore, I have already received news that she was admitted into the hospital. At least I am not that worried as she is under medical supervision. Upon arrival in Moscow the next morning, she had gone through several test and still waiting for the result.

Just when I arrived to my hotel, I received a call from my wife that my son suddenly told his nanny that he cannot walk at all. I was informed that my mum rushed to pick him up and was sending him to the hospital. Immediately I discussed with my organizers in Moscow that I will need to re-schedule and will leave immediately after the Qi Men Dun Jia program. My state of mind at that time was totally unsuitable to teach even though I have already arrived in Moscow.

After detailed discussion and deciding thoroughly, I made the decision to fly back to Malaysia that very day. With great help from my sister and staff at Harpers Travel Penang, I was confirmed on the next flight out of Moscow. I have decided to give students who were going to attend this program a big discount for the inconvenience they have to go through because of the postponement.

In all these years of setting objectives, goals and achieving all of them, I thought my driving force was based on the sense of achievement and being one of the best of what I do. However my highest personal value, which I found out that day, is my family. All these while I know family ranked high in my personal values. However in situation like this, it really makes me sort out my priorities in life even more clearer than any conventional exercise that I have been through before. Nothing matter more to me than family. They are my biggest driving force to achieve, succeed and even do more for them than what I will ever do for myself.

I could have forced myself to stay, but then how good of a teacher I will be if I stayed because of the financial rewards and ignoring the conditions of my wife and son. I do not think they would want to learn from somebody like that either. It would also not be fair to the students with my state of mind in such a situation.

Some readers will want to know that I surely have the Bazi of my wife and children. I would have known whether they will be safe or in danger. Yes, their BaZi is as clear as anything and at the back of my head. But that does not stop me feeling worried and anxious on their health condition. Heck with my QMDJ calculation of traveling to Moscow, I have even secured a major consulting contract in Malaysia upon reaching Moscow. Nevertheless like any husband and father, I was extremely worried on that day.

Do you know what is driving your behaviour? What is driving you to achieve? What is causing your success or failure? By knowing your BaZi and destiny path in detail, then you would only be able to maximize on it when you have clear and consistent path of achievement. Achieving not by any other people’s standard, but achieving based on the core of who you are and what you have been dealt with in life (BaZi).

So again, what is driving you?

Blossoming Your Peach

There were a lot of talk about romance in the media lately. In particular about affairs after marriage.

There are numerous reason why a person would cheat on their spouse. If we look at it from Chinese Metaphysic angle, usually it is highlighted in their BaZi and can be supported by their living environment - Feng Shui.

From a person's BaZi, if the person has a lot of combination in their chart, usually it means complicated relationship problem. If added with clashes then usually the person will have multiple relationship before and even after marriage. Even those without any combination, will have a Peach Blossom combining into their chart every 12 years.

However, not everyone will cheat on their spouse as a result of Bazi combo. A monk or a priest would also have Peach Blossom every 12 years but monks do not just simply disrobe or priest turn their back on their calling in life. Therefore a big factor is due to the person's behaviour and also character. Situations in the person's BaZi will bring them into a situation where they could have the opportunity but it is entirely up to the person to make the decision.

Living environment would also encourage extra peach blossom, meaning the person will have more opportunities to cheat than usual. If one of the cardinal direction, North, South, East or West is enhanced while that location element also coincides with the person's inherent peach blossom then they will have more opportunities than usual even though their Bazi does not indicate it. This is the result of your environment having an effect on your destiny.

There are of course numerous reason why a person would cheat. Top 3 reason being
1. A new relationship would get help a person to create the feeling of excitement.
2. Sense of excitement from cheating the spouse.
3. Sexual frustration from the present relationship. Although in Asian communities, it is not often discussed, however sexual frustration is one of the leading reason for marriage failures. Changes in your libido can actually also be read through your Bazi chart. Therefore, if it the above reason, then it would be helpful to indicate to the couple of the problem they are facing.

However as a consultant, it is always a hard decision for us to contemplate. For a male client, money, wealth is also the same as women. Overly enhancing the wealth element would also bring out the peach blossom inherent in the chart.

My approach most of the time is to let the client know of the upcoming Peach blossom situation if it can be seen from Bazi Chart. Then it is up to the person to mentally control their behaviour.

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A little bit of knowledge can be very dangerous.

Yesterday, one of my relatives called me up in the afternoon, asked me to join him for tea with one of his friend from mainland China. According to my relative, this person also has an interest in Chinese Metaphysics. Having a couple of hours to spare before bringing my kids to play outdoor, I decided to meet this person.

When I met Mr. Leung (in his late 40’s), he told me he is from Hong Kong but now residing in Shanghai. My relative decide to de-tour to his newly bought condominium, I thought he was showing Mr. Leung some investment opportunities in Penang.

When we arrived at the condo building, my relative said “both of you can help check out the Feng Shui of my new place.” Mr Leung said he did not bring his compass. My relative point to me and said he got it in his phone. I reluctantly bring out my iPhone and check the reading. Mr Leung was very surprised with capability of the iPhone (in my daily work, I still use the Luo Pan, I think clients would not pay me my high fees if they see me using iPhone to do audit).

I decided not to say anything about the Feng Shui of his condo, because I am not working and it is a de-tour scenario. And when we got back in the car, Mr. Leung start to ask me some background questions about Feng Shui, the conversation goes something like this

Mr. Leung: How did you study Feng Shui?, you study it yourself from books?

GK Ham: I study under Grandmaster Lau on San Yuan Feng Shui. San He under two different master, and QMDJ from Master Ho in Hong Kong.

Mr Leung : Oh, San Yuan, you use Xuan Gong Flying Star?

GK Ham: No we don’t use Flying Star. Mainly San Yuan.

Mr. Leung: So San Yuan, you subscribe to the principle of changing to period 8 on 2004?

GK Ham: Actually we are not worried about the period. We are more concern about what is the qi structure of the property, exit of qi of the property and using Useful God in BaZi to match with the person’s allocation.

Mr. Leung: Then do you meddle with Ba Zi.

GK Ham: Of course.

Mr. Leung: It is actually good you have studied about San He. So that you can have a more broader outlook on Feng Shui. Just San Yuan alone would not be enough.

GK Ham: (obviously you do not know what you are talking about, if you study 2 system completely you would not be making this statement. San Yuan is a complete system and San He is a complete system, I’ve decided to dedicate my career on San Yuan, case close)

After these few Qs and As, in my mind, I thought Mr. Leung just has an interest in Feng Shui, so it is natural for those who are not in the field to make self and wrong assumptions about different systems or try to create hybrid systems.

When we reach his hotel, my relative asked me whether want to join them(Mr. Leung’s old friend Mr. Liu who is from China doing investment in Penang, and Mr. and Mrs Tan and their small daughter) for drinks, since it is still early, I have decided to join in.

When we sat down, Mr. Liu told my relative that Mr. Leung had helped a lot of people become rich in China. My relative was introduced to Mr. Leung a few days ago through Mr. Liu due to their business relation. Instantly it hit me, that Mr. Leung is also in Feng Shui consultant and Mr. Liu was trying to recommend him to my relative. I have become a human shield because most likely my relative find it hard to turn Mr. Liu down and thus bring me into the picture.

Anyhow, since I am stuck in the position, I might as well enjoy the afternoon tea. Then I saw Mr. Leung bring out his Chinese 10,000 years calendar and a note pad. Mr. and Mrs Tan wanted Mr. Leung to do BaZi analysis for their daughter who is having some illness. After Mr. Leung write up the BaZi, I had a brief glance on the BaZi as I was sitting next to him.

Mr. Leung decided to start his BaZi analysis on the Mr. Tan daughter, “Your daughter belong to water element, water strong like the sea.” (Because his daughter is strong REN壬 Water) “ Her illness will go away when she is 11, she will somehow find some doctors or person that will help her, when she reach her that age. Currently her strong water is being block by Earth, therefore the water cannot run smoothly.”

The young girl is Strong Ren Water, going through XU戌 Earth luck( which later when I go through my calendar, actually she is going through YOU酉 luck, apparently he made a mistake when writing up the young girl’s chart).

Plus her Ba Zi chart has an inherent SI巳, WU午, WEI未 forming Fire in the bottom. Using just a Yi 乙 Wood to prevent both fire and water from clashing. When she was born 7 years ago , the illness is not evident because year is GUI WEI癸未, followed by JIA SHEN甲申 and then YI YOU乙酉. All of it has wood, therefore the evident clash is not there at least until 2006.

The inherent clash, surfaced this year because GENG YIN 庚寅 year, Geng 庚combines with Yi乙 wood and thus inherent fire beneath clash upwards with the water, desease related to the blood. She suffers from Lupus.

(If you got lost in the above explanation, in brief his interpretation of the chart is not detail enough to get to the root of the problem)

Mr. Leung knowledge level is obviously not ready for him to go into this profession full time. Writing up BaZi chart and does not know the difference of Jie Qi 节气 for entering the month is not qualified to be giving advice to others.

I have no idea where he learn his BaZi or Feng Shui, anyway I am not interested to know. No wonder this field is being shun by some parts of the general public, it is these standard of “consultants” going around giving others advice on things and knowledge they thought they knew it inside out. Which in actual fact, what they are doing is just giving Chinese Metaphysics a bad name.

My advice is, if you learn it for own knowledge, you can consult your own family members and friends while maintaining a good feedback relation with your master, at least they can tell you when you make a mistake and correct you.

If you are doing it full time as a career. Thinking learning from books and some short talks by Feng Shui master, then you are trying to take a short cut and not doing your dues. The law of karma always catches up with you when you have done a string of damage through your advices to countless families and businesses. Which in reality their life would be better off not taking up your service in the first place!

And if you are doing it full time and try to wing it, one day there might be someone like me who just happen to sit next to you when you are doing your consultation and write up on his blog about it.

(All names have been changed for privacy reasons except for Mr. Leung)

Can creating a tomb before you die actually enhances your luck?

Doing a tomb or grave for a person before they die can actually bring about good luck or enchance a person's overall luck. Usually a master would help a person who is suffering from terminal illness or very down in their luck. However most of the time, we have to take into account the person's overall destiny and also his/her behaviour and character in society.

End of the day, somebody has to settle or nullify the karmic effect if such exercise is being carried out. Here are excerpts from a Hong Kong magazine, Grandmaster Lau was interviewed for his view on doing 'live tombs'.

Yi Jing 易经 Image from our planet

About 12 days ago, I heard on the radio that our planet Earth currently is experiencing severe cold storm on the North and extreme heat on the South. This undoubtedly had caused great disturbance in our eco-system. It is also due to our long term abuse on the environment. From the Yi-Jing 易经perspective, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Ching one of the oldest systematic form of Chinese oracle, the current Earth situation has given us a Hexagram or Gua 卦.

There are many methods of Gua Divination; the more accurate and fastest is through the image formation that one can capture from a situation. However image capture from a situation is more of an art than science.

The Gua image that imprint on me for this situation is the 63 Hexagram – Ji Ji 既濟. With water above and Fire below. The Gua meaning means Finished – “At the start there is good luck and at the end there is disorder. It denotes perfect balance has been reached and any movement may cause order to revert disorder. We should take thought of misfortune and arm ourselves against it in advance”.

And superimposing this on our current Earth condition, looks like more serious natural disasters will follow if we do not act personally, as a group, as a nation and as inhabitants of this planet.

Then on 12 January, Haiti was struck with a massive earthquake. If you look at the 63 Hexagram closely, the only way to let the water extinguish the fire is breaking of the third line. Hence further clue to this hexagram, changing of the third line. Movement of the third line has one very crucial meaning – ‘Time makes all the difference’

Which means if you want save or rescue our environment, the best time is to start with ourselves and NOW.

Oracle from Yi Jing will show us our likely path and turn of events if we do not do anything and just follow the flow of events. It is not a fix eventuality but high probable reality if the current conditions are left to run its own course.

Not only Hollywood has given us the warning, planet earth has also given us the sign to act now and act fast.

2012 - Is it going to end??

Recently there have been a number of people asking me “Is it all going to end on 2012?” From the movie 2012, it has created a mass paranoia on the end of days coming to us on Earth.

My reply was “It better be, or else there's going to mortages, loan and all the bills to pay” with a smirky smile on my face. Let's face it in a brief and simple sentence – 'Death is imminent the minute you are born'. Nobody can escape it, no matter how high your spiritual cultivation, there is a 'bus' waiting for you. Well for some they can fly/float when they reach certain 'attainment'. However that's another discussion altogether.

In Chinese Metaphysics, there is no such recording that our calendar would run out. For the record of time, we use the 60 Jia Zi 六十甲子. That can calculate time in solar or lunar terms. Ancient Chinese, they view time in a circular manner. Means that there is a cycle to things in nature, human body, weather and almost all in the physical reality.

Most Western culture view time in a straight line, therefore the past is gone and looking forward to the future. Whereas for the Chinese culture, what you do now may not affect you but will come back to affect you later in life or your children. Things like being environmentally friendly now has it's benefit? Hint hint.

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Therefore from a Chinese calendar perspective, life will still go on beyond 2012. Most likely Earth would have more hostile living conditions but life still goes on (not from Chinese Metaphysics but from Al Gore documentary 'An Inconvenient Truth', sadly most politicians don't get it) .

What we need to do instead is take a real hard look on your own life plan and ask yourself some real difficult questions.

1. What do you aim to achieve in the next 3 years for yourself and also your family?

2. Do you have a plan in the first place?

3. What is your luck outlook for coming 5 years? Is it a time to march on gallantly or is it a time to shelter yourself in a bunker with enough savings to last you through probable change of jobs or career or slowdown of business.

4. Is your environment favourable for you and your family?

Many people choose to fight with the tide of life, venturing into business or a new career just because they think they got everything figured out. If luck is not on your side, any brilliant business plan would also sink like the Titanic. 'It is always better to be lucky than smart'. A very difficult point to digest, however if you know when you are going to have the trend on your side, then half of your goals it is already done.

Bottom line is, if you had a wake up call from the movie. It means that you have been procrastinating on the things you should have / would have / need to do in life. First step to beyond 2012, is to check where you are now in terms of destiny and where you would want to go and how much is destiny on your side in achieving what you want to achieve.

There is hope beyond 2012, if you have a plan now....