Selecting Date of Birth for Babies

Received an email last evening asking me to select date for twins. I have written a long explanation to Mr and Mrs Lee explaining why they should let nature takes it's course. I am sharing with readers of this blog so that you can understand in detail the consideration for birth date selection.

Here's my unedited reply:

Dear Mr and Mrs Lee,

First of all congratulations on your incoming son and daughter. Wow ! Both at once must be a real blessings.

I have ceased to do any date selection for new born since 5 years ago. I would only do for close clients that could have possible critical situations concerning the mother during delivery.

As you know, I am practicing Buddhist and Taoist Practitioner.

Child come into this world due to their affinity with their parent in their previous life. Whether it is good karmic ties or unfavorable karmic ties, due to the relationship only they will come into this world in this lifetime as your child.

In essence you would also need to have the ideal background (economic condition whether good or bad, husband and wife relationship etc) ,  to fit into their childhood and adult karma.

 As a Feng Shui consultant, I will select an ideal date for the baby- the first and foremost consideration is having the ideal 10 years luck period. There are few conditions that come into analysis. As human beings, only 10% of people would have consecutive two to three 10 years good luck period and about 5% of the population will have consecutive  four to five 10 years good luck period.

Then the consideration comes into the analysis

1. If a person have really good luck period during their early childhood, then they would have lots of toys and grow up in a above average family background. Meaning that before or after their birth, the family would have improvement in their economic condition to MATCH their early childhood luck. However when they reach their 30's or 40's, in time that they need luck the most - they will not have it because they already enjoyed it in their early life.

2. If I select a person to have fantastic luck in their 30's and 40's, then it means that their early childhood must be average or below average luck. To have a REAL CONTRAST between early childhood and adult luck, usually early childhood would be very quite 'bitter' to have that huge impact rise in mid adult life. That would also means that if the child has that luck period, before or after birth - the family economic condition would also need to reflect and MATCH his/her childhood hardship.

Then the ultimate question goes back to the parent - Does the parent wants the child to enjoy childhood luck that would better affect the parent in their children's childhood? or are they willing to endure some setbacks to sacrifice for their child's midlife good luck?

3. If during that period of selection, there is a day that would enable a baby to have consecutive 4 - 5 (10 Years Luck Period), 99.5% of the time, the baby that I have selected that favorable time would be born either one or more days earlier. Why? To have such a good luck in their lifetime, parent would also need to have the right karmic background and economic condition to have such a child. And most important of all, they would need to have very favorable ancestors grave (Yin Feng Shui) to support such a destiny.


After the general luck and destiny, the second consideration is relationship.

1. Some days that favors good luck period, may not favor good relationship with spouse. Then parent's have to decide, they want a capable son who go through many marriages in life or capable daughters in their career but can't seem to find Mr. Right. Of course I am generalising here in my examples, as there could be many more considerations factors or scenario that we could encounter base on the time-frame for birth.

Finally or most important about Health.

If we select a date that does not have much up or down in their destiny in order for the person to have average health throughout their life. Which also means luck wise is average throughout whole life.

Furthermore in your case, a boy and a girl born each year would have their luck ELEMENTS (5 Elements) arrange in reverse order. Days that favors a male luck arrangement sometimes would not favor so much a female born on that day. Therefore it adds on, more complexity and consideration to the selection.

In conclusion, I would suggest to you just let nature takes it course.

As parent, our main priority is to ensure that we as providers for our child, would be able to provide them with the best education, time and most all love in their lifetime. Thus we need to USE Feng Shui to balance our own destiny, so that we can have the edge in our economic circumstances to have the time for them. Also also use Feng Shui to avoid the possible health causes that are caused by the environment. If we want to leave something permanent to our children and grandchildren, then pre-select a good Yin Feng Shui ground so that all generations in the future can reap our decision we make while we still are here.

I wish you all the best in receiving your boy and girl soon. Having twins is already a blessing, furthermore a boy and girl. You will be alright!

Warmest regards

GK Ham

Is it better to be smart or lucky?

These few days have been doing Feng Shui audits for families that have growing childrens and also friends have been voicing concerns and excitement of their children school major examination.

From my own experience of being in formal school for 16 years, much of the 11 years are more about examining or testing how good my memory is compared to the rest of my class. Only later years in my college and uni that started to require me to use my own analysis and viewpoint into a subject or discussion.

I still find it true that examination in primary and high school has nothing to do and not a way to gauge how high a person will achieve in society.

From a Chinese Metaphysic conclusion, if your youth luck is favourable, then likely you will perform above average as a student. If you have unfavourable luck during your youth, you will encounter alot of difficulties and distraction in your study or shall we say memorizing capabilities.

Then the answer is obvious, from purely a grade standpoint in school, it is much better to be lucky than smart. If you are lucky and smart then you will be a top student.

Sometimes I find parents over stress themselves on how will a child perform in school. I would be more concern on how their prime age luck would turn out and which area that they can most likely be successful with what they are already being equipped from the day they are born. Each person character traits and luck phases or cycle will be different. It is doing the right thing at the right time such as venturing into own business OR maintain in a corporation during those times will ended differing you from a mediocre achiever or a high achiever in life. Timing is everything, knowing when you luck trend is in your favour and when to lay low is a critical part to master if you want to win in the game of life.

Then as a parent, our job is to provide and guide our children to best maximize their destiny in life instead of just preparing them to be good at the memory game in our school system.

Prepare them in life skill such as politeness, able to engage in a friendly conversation, rapport skills with others, how to think constructively and critically, how to stand up and speak up fo your rights, respect others, how to get into a real win-win solutions with others, how to enjoy finer things in life, how to laugh at yourself, laugh with others and many more that is not taught in school. But critical to their survival and success in any our modern society aroun the world!

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